Remember the replacement referee fiasco in the NFL in 2012? That whole debacle brought to light something we as sports parents need to think about: how should we view refs? And does it really matter how we treat them?
If you are a coach, then it is your job to coach the team and protect your players. Sometimes that means you will have rather testy conversations with the referees or umpires. That’s a subject for another post.
If you are a parent, it is your job to offer positive support from the stands or sidelines and let the coach do his job. But what if you are outraged at a ref or ump’s call?
I don’t expect that you will never get angry at a call when your child is playing sports. You will see calls you dislike, calls that may very well be wrong. You will get angry at sloppy officiating. But the question is, what will you do about it?
When an ump or ref makes a call that you strongly dislike, you can:
I think I’ve done every one of the above at some point during 21 years of being a sports mom. And I have to tell you: Neither A, B, C, D or E made a difference in the game.
How then, should we treat officials?
With respect. Plain and simple. As you would want your kids to treat any human, and especially authority. Remember, your kids see your behavior as permission to follow suit.
And quite honestly, acting like a jerk never made things better.
Janis B. Meredith, sports mom and coach's wife, writes a sports parenting blog called JBM Thinks. She authored the Sports Parenting Survival Guide Series and has recently launched a podcasting series for sports parents. You can also find her on Facebook and Twitter.