Put my kid in! You stink coach! How to deal with aggressive parents

By Vin Sehgal | Posted 4/22/2014

An immeasurable amount of time and preparation goes into being a football coach. To be a superb coach, you must be an effective communicator, teacher, innovator, strategic analyst and be a peacemaker. While the on-field rigors of being a youth football coach are a challenge, it is best to take a preventative approach when dealing with off-field matters such as pushy parents.

Here are five points to help with aggressive parents:

1. Reinforce your 'Parents Code of Conduct' rules.  If you do not have a parents guide on how to behave at the football field, create one immediately. Be concise with your parent expectations. Detail what parents can expect from your coaching staff. When an unruly parent attempts to create conflict, point to a specific paragraph within the Parents Code of Act to help squash the issue. As a friendly reminder to parents, forward this document several times during the season. 

2. Be fair and unbiased as a coach. If a kid senses player favoritism, he'll likely express this to his parents. Expect to be chastised from an angered parent. Prevent this scenario by being fair. Commit to work intently with each kid on the team. 

3. Be calm, be collected. What is the easiest way to placate an angry parent? Have a calm response to concerns. You want to diffuse a potential situation before it erupts. 

4. Put yourself in the parent's shoes. Parents of youth football athletes dedicate an abundance of time to the sport -- just as coaches do. Football is a game that centers around dedication, not just by the coaches and athletes, but the parents as well.  

5. Be transparent. It is important to maintain an open and honest discussion with parents. Being dishonest or misleading can open the door to mistrust and that can turn a parent that is a supporter into a parent that is a detractor. 

It's pertinent to set the right environment for kids to play football. Aggressive parents offer an unnecessary distraction to an already complicated game. Parents should not aim to take away from the numerous life lessons a child is learning while playing youth football.

Learn more about why your child should play youth football at http://www.youthfootballonline.com/movement/

Vin Sehgal is the co-founder of Youth Football Online. 

 

 

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